“Cursed are those who put their trust in mere humans,
who rely on human strength
and turn their hearts away from the Lord.
They are like stunted shrubs in the desert,
with no hope for the future.
They will live in the barren wilderness,
in an uninhabited salty land.
But blessed are those who trust in the Lord
and have made the Lord their hope and confidence.
They are like trees planted along a riverbank,
with roots that reach deep into the water.
Such trees are not bothered by the heat
or worried by long months of drought.
Their leaves stay green,
and they never stop producing fruit.
The human heart is the most deceitful of all things,
and desperately wicked.
Who really knows how bad it is?
But I, the Lord, search all hearts
and examine secret motives.
I give all people their due rewards,
according to what their actions deserve.”
(Jeremiah 17:5-10)
It's easy, as a single, to set your hope on a future partner. To think night and day about the prospect of loving another. But it's important to remember how dangerous putting our faith in another can be. By doing so we create unfair expectations for ourselves and the other person. Expectations that our future partner will never be able to meet.
They will not always make you happy, and in fact the more you expect of them the less likely they are to be able to make you happy. Happiness should not come from another, but from within. Let the Holy Spirit guide you, let Him fill your heart with joy. Let Him be the reason for loving another. Loving another for any other reason will only rob the both of you of the joy that can be had.