The talks we don't want to have.....but need to.

So I've really been contemplating posting something about this for sometime and have hesitated up until now. But last night I thankfully had an unfortunate conversation with my 11 yr old son. I say thankfully, because I was able to have the talk with him early.....I say unfortunate, because I think 11 yrs old is too young to have to worry about masturbation and porn. There I said it.....MASTURBATION and PORN. I was informed during this conversation that the boys at school are already talking about masturbation and showing each other pornographic images on their data phones at school and on the bus. That's right......those little devices that get so many adults in trouble, can actually get kids into trouble too. Why are you posting this? You may ask. Well here is why. Parents........we have to have these talks with our kids........we have to be proactive and warn them of the long term consequences. These things have killed relationships, destroyed marriages, destroyed lives. This is not something that we can continue to sweep under the rug and hope that society, peers, or school leaders will properly direct them on. I actually saw a post on here a while back from a mother joking about her teenage boys talking and laughing in a restaurant about "boobies", I've also seen others post pictures of their little boys with the girls of Hooters. Is that really the way we want our women looked at and treated? I am no woman, but I think the idea of being looked at as a piece of meat would discuss me??? So why are we as fathers....and mothers allowing our kids to grow up thinking it's "all good" to look at, laugh at, and lust after our sisters, mothers, and daughters. I have a daughter and the thought of a man, or boy for that matter, ever looking at her the way society (we) set the example for appalls me, and quite frankly pisses me off. The fact that, because of these societal views, I looked at women that way disgusts me even more. (for more insight please read http://www.aholyexperience.com/2013/03/after-steubenville-what-our-sons-needs-to-know-about-manhood/ ) Please understand that this is not an attack on anyone for anything that has been done. Lord knows that I have screwed up many a time, I am not here to judge, I am simply asking that we all, every single one of us, step up and lead our kids the way they need to be lead. We are their parents, they look up to us, and whether you believe it or not they will follow our lead. So lets set the good example, lets talk with them.......we don't need to fight or yell, let them know that we've messed up and show them grace for their mistakes. Let them know and understand that we are there for them, no matter what the topic is. I am so thankful for the fact that my son talked to me about this, it's not an indicator of who I am as a father, but of what my Father (in heaven) has done through me. Give them love and direction. Lets get our families back, lets get our purity back. We as parents may not be able to save the world, but we can save our kids.